Can I Give you a Razor to Delete Work BS?

You are a house. 🏡

Let’s imagine what that looks like.

There’s the sidewalk in front of your lawn. Then, the stairs that lead to your porch where your front door stands. All of this exists outside of your house.

Inside, is your foyer, the space before you enter the home. The living room, a public space, is next followed by the dining room. Your kitchen, the heart of your home, is in the back. Sometimes it’s enclosed and private, other times the kitchen is open and public.

Upstairs, the bedrooms and bathrooms are private and not available to the public. In the hall, there’s a pull-down staircase that leads to the attic, a very private space.

The people you interact with at work are strangers who visit your house for a variety of reasons with many intentions, sometime expressed, sometimes left unexpressed or even unconscious.

Let me ask you this:
👉 do you often invite strangers from the street into the heart of your home?

I’m betting not often. So, why take the rude or condescending comments of managers or coworkers there?

Just because someone says something negative about you doesn’t make it true, nor do you have to accept it. You decide.

Some comments  should never be allowed on the porch, much less invited in.

Trustworthy people can visit in the living room and share important feedback. You can take it to the kitchen to process further or stash it in the attic, to contemplate another time.

For example, your manager says you need to be more visible.

👞 Where is he standing- the sidewalk, the porch or maybe the foyer?

Where are you putting that ‘present’ he delivered?
❓ The living room where you will try to incorporate it?
❓The dining room because it feeds future growth?
❓The kitchen because it’s a core issue you want to address?
❓The attic because it’s not useful?

My house scheme helps professional women to be more empowered and less reactive to the thoughts and opinions of others. ( let’s be real. Feedback is a subjective opinion.)

It's a framework you can apply to evaluate actions and comments of others that specific, actionable and doesn’t consume all your energy or disturb your peace.

Can you see this working for you?

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